Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Wow Bluegirl, Well done, I'm not sure if I would be able to do that, despite how impatient I am. lol Well he could obviously see that he had someone real special, of course he would say yes. ...

Do email me. I think I'd like to get to know you better. We seem to have a bit in common.

As for "My fears are that the person I am getting to know is just a fantasy that LD can so easily create. Could we fall in love with a fantasy?"   more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Wow Bluegirl, Well done, I'm not sure if I would be able to do that, despite how impatient I am. lol Well he could obviously see that he had someone real special, of course he would say yes. I am speaking with a very special man at the moment LD. We speak for hours on cam and im, and I do think it is has developed into something that could be much more than we ever imagined. My fears are that the person I am getting to know is just a fantasy that LDR can so easily create. Could we fall in love with a fantasy? I mean you dont have RL situations to deal with, disagreements, responsibility, bills and so on. Wondering if in RL he is different and what if in real life he changes, but by then you have given your heart? I will email soon, thanks for sharing. xxx

Do email me. I think I'd like to get to know you better. We seem to have a bit in common.

As for "My fears are that the person I am getting to know is just a fantasy that LD can so easily create. Could we fall in love with a fantasy?" Yeah we could. And that was my biggest fear as well. I spent two years fighting that fear that fantasy was all we really had and wondering if he was really as wonderful in RL. We talk about everything including my fears and he kept telling me it was more than fantasy.

And no we haven't had to argue about some of the RL things like money, responsibility, and paying bills etc. But we have discussed those things and we have similar ideas of what is important and are agreed upon how we will split or share responsibilities. And honestly, although we've had some misunderstandings we've never had an argument and I really don't think we will. Only because we DO talk about everything. Also, because of who we are, what our temperments are and our maturity levels.

I tend to get upset and sometimes a little angry, but overall I'm very rational and if you can make me understand my anger generally dissapates quickly. He just plain doesn't get angry. He has the patience of Job. And he's willing to talk to me and work things out when I am upset. So we mesh well together. In all the time we've spent together I've only thought I saw him angry once and I don't deal with angry people well. I just get really quiet and wait to see what happens. As I was being quiet and waiting to see what happens his little "episode" turned out not to be anger and before he was done "ranting" he was laughing. He was a little frustrated but not angry at all and he just laughed it off. So I'm very lucky he has no temper because that works really well for me. Some people need to get angry and blow off steam by arguing. Releasing the valve so to speak. We don't. That works for us. less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Thanks do much for providing the details here. Have been meaning to email (when I figure out how lol) and still may if your OK with that? I applaud your commitment. I guess you have to give it a go if you found someone special. I too am not that patient, but if I think the guy is worth it, then this would make the difference. Best wishes to you both. xxx

You are welcome to email me - if you figure out how... :)

ps. If you want a clue   more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Thanks do much for providing the details here. Have been meaning to email (when I figure out how lol) and still may if your OK with that? I applaud your commitment. I guess you have to give it a go if you found someone special. I too am not that patient, but if I think the guy is worth it, then this would make the difference. Best wishes to you both. xxx

You are welcome to email me - if you figure out how... :)

ps. If you want a clue on just how IMPATIENT I can be...I did the proposing. Couldn't wait for him to get around to it, LOL. But he did say YES!!!!! ;) less...

Thank you everyone for the good wishes!! :)

For those of you who have asked - here is how we made it work.

We never gave up. Thats it. Thats all there is.

Oh, you wanted MORE than that?!?! LOL. Well ok.

The most important thing about a LDR is that one or both of you needs to be willing to move if things work out. Without that there is no point. We had that.

But I think the biggest thing in our favor is that we didn't start out intending to have a LDR. It gave us time to get to k  more...

Thank you everyone for the good wishes!! :)

For those of you who have asked - here is how we made it work.

We never gave up. Thats it. Thats all there is.

Oh, you wanted MORE than that?!?! LOL. Well ok.

The most important thing about a LDR is that one or both of you needs to be willing to move if things work out. Without that there is no point. We had that.

But I think the biggest thing in our favor is that we didn't start out intending to have a LDR. It gave us time to get to know each other without that dating pressure. We started out as penpals because with the distance between us we never dreamed of "dating" per se. Its just that as we got to know each other better we started to develop feelings for each other and everything fell into place from there. We almost didn't let the relationship develop because of the distance. But we decided that this might be our one opportunity and we'd be fools to blow it. So we made a plan that if our relationship continued to develop we would reassess things in 6 months and determine if we were ready to commit to the expense and the difficulties of meeting in person.

I will tell you that in the beginning we only emailed a couple of times a week. That was all. A nice easy relaxing way to get to know someone. And one thing that I ABSOLUTELY loved is that after emailing for a few months I had a birthday. For my birthday he used his mp3 player to make a voice recording for me of him singing happy birthday and just chatting about general stuff. That blew my mind. From that time on we kept making voice recordings for each other that we would attach to emails and then we would put them on our mp3 players to listen to them. It was such an awesome way to get to know each other. It was months later that we moved on to IMing and to webcam. The time difference makes those things a challenge, but we perservered. Skype makes all the difference for us. We spend hours together there.

And when we would arrange time to IM or to webcam on skype we called them "Dates". You can't date via webcam quite the way you can in RL but it was still fun.

I hope this helps. :) less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Hi Bluegirl2006, Congratulations to you and Peter! Thats is great to hear, thanks so much for sharing. I would love to know how you guys made it work? There are some great guys from other countries on here, but I have such a hard time thinking with just how to make it work for a such a LDR? I would think you must of had a lot of patience. lol

Patience is one thing I am short of, but Peter has it in abundance! I won't blow smoke up your a  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ozredhead62 Hi Bluegirl2006, Congratulations to you and Peter! Thats is great to hear, thanks so much for sharing. I would love to know how you guys made it work? There are some great guys from other countries on here, but I have such a hard time thinking with just how to make it work for a such a LDR? I would think you must of had a lot of patience. lol

Patience is one thing I am short of, but Peter has it in abundance! I won't blow smoke up your a$$. LDRs are very hard because the physical part of a relationship is a very important one.

Since I know you are a paying member, shoot me an email and I'll be glad to give you more details. less...