im not sure how to exept myself after giving birth to twins and gaining alot of weight. i see big women who like who they are. i dont mind being big its just im now tooo big and i dont feel attractive anymore. im 5'6 and my wt. is 287lbs. could a man love me and find me attractive? im still nice looking its just my belly and when i look at it i feel ugly. my twins birth wt, was 8lbs. and 8.1 lbs. it took its toll on me! at least i got 2 good things out of it! my babys....

Quoting: Originally posted by butterbll HEY I had three sisters NO brothers. So I had 4 teachers as to the insite's of women thinking.

That explains it.....it also explains why my brother is the same great way.....he has 3 sisters!

Kris

Quoting: Originally posted by Katwoman1968 Butter, You are so uplifting and intuitive as far as women's insights. Thanks for your positive attitude! Kris

HEY I had three sisters NO brothers. So I had 4 teachers as to the insite's of women thinking.

Well It also works for BHM.Because after my divorce my self esteem was shall we say was in the septic system.I figured If I just have given 120% instead of 100% may be the marriage would have worked out. Through many hours of therapy and Many more of soul searching how my marriage really had no chance . I was not perfect ,But one refuses to seek help. Then tells you It is 100% you fault the marriage is not working and she wants you Gone . and tells others that you Abandoned her.( for the rec  more...

Well It also works for BHM.Because after my divorce my self esteem was shall we say was in the septic system.I figured If I just have given 120% instead of 100% may be the marriage would have worked out. Through many hours of therapy and Many more of soul searching how my marriage really had no chance . I was not perfect ,But one refuses to seek help. Then tells you It is 100% you fault the marriage is not working and she wants you Gone . and tells others that you Abandoned her.( for the record we lived on her dads acreage in the country)Like I tried to tell her that there I would have been not welcome. She could not figure out why? One has to cut your losses. For about 3 years I had to day ,by day Tell my self that: I WAS WORTHY OF LOVE. I AM A PERSON WHO"S LIFE HAS VALUE. The reason for that was after 7 years of Mental abuse by my Ex and 18 years of living with An Alcoholic father my self esteem was next to 0% It is only through A positive attitude that one can climb out of the Pit of Woe and start on the path to LIVING WELL. Though I have not Arrived at Nervana YET. It is the journey and those who you meet along the path to your goal that can be the most fun. less...

Butter,

You are so uplifting and intuitive as far as women's insights. Thanks for your positive attitude!

Kris

You ask how do BBW's learn self love. You work at every day.It is also a mind over matter...
If you dont mind ,It don't matter. Basically what I am trying to say. It Is Attitude that counts.I have seen ladies of larger sizes that were sexy as hell(250-300 pound range). No the were not a size 2, but the were accepting of their posative attributes, they worked with what the had and had a great attitude posative towards their body. If you tell your self Over and over. "YOU ARE SEXY, I FEEL   more...

You ask how do BBW's learn self love. You work at every day.It is also a mind over matter...
If you dont mind ,It don't matter. Basically what I am trying to say. It Is Attitude that counts.I have seen ladies of larger sizes that were sexy as hell(250-300 pound range). No the were not a size 2, but the were accepting of their posative attributes, they worked with what the had and had a great attitude posative towards their body. If you tell your self Over and over. "YOU ARE SEXY, I FEEL SEXY!" You will start your self on the road to loving your self. Don't concentrate on the Negative.. My but is too big, My tummy is to flabby ect. But concentrate on the posative.I am not trying to tear you down. I've been there I was over 450 pounds, through diet and excersize, and now lap band I hope to be around 250 one day.Right now(395). But it will take time to lose.I did not pack on over 250 over night. So I cannot expect my self to be there over night. As for attitude. I did not feel for quite a few years after my divorce that I was worthy of love at that weight. But I have learned that If a woman can not accept me at my present weight,and accept me for what is on the inside. Then is she really worth my time? Every time you go by a mirror you tell yourself.
I AM SEXY! I AM WORTH OF LOVE! I LOVE ME!! If others don't think so, tell them. It has been nice knowing you "NOW GET OUT OF MY LIFE!" less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us ,SOME,not all,PANIC...and start to wo...

It was taken me a long time to realize just how true that is. A man who loves bbw's has seen it all before, and loves it. It's us who need to be more confident in our own skin.  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us ,SOME,not all,PANIC...and start to worry about how they look naked,and what i might think of their body,or if i would STILL want with them, after i've seen them naked. All the women i've been either...Tall,Short,Fat,Slim,Drunk or Dead,(my case comes up next Tuesday.he he). So i,and MANY other BBW lovers, know EXACTLY what your body IS going to look like,LONG b4 we ever get to see you naked. Well, i do anyway! NOTHING is going to be a surprise to me/us! We've seen it all b4,and we expect 2c what we see/what YOU look like. Just enjoy your naked body...because i KNOW i/we do!!!! xxx

It was taken me a long time to realize just how true that is. A man who loves bbw's has seen it all before, and loves it. It's us who need to be more confident in our own skin. less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us having sex,SOME,not all,PANIC...and s...

Very nicely said. You have soothed a raw nerve with me and probably many others on this site who have had men put up with them being a BBW rather than appreciated them because of it.

I would think that they were all lucky women. well maybe exc  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us having sex,SOME,not all,PANIC...and start to worry about how they look naked,and what i might think of their body,or if i would STILL want to have sex with them, after i've seen them naked. All the women i've had sex with have been either...Tall,Short,Fat,Slim,Drunk or Dead,(my case comes up next Tuesday.he he). So i,and MANY other BBW lovers, know EXACTLY what your body IS going to look like,LONG b4 we ever get to see you naked. Well, i do anyway! NOTHING is going to be a surprise to me/us! We've seen it all b4,and we expect 2c what we see/what YOU look like. Just enjoy your naked body...because i KNOW i/we do!!!! xxx

Very nicely said. You have soothed a raw nerve with me and probably many others on this site who have had men put up with them being a BBW rather than appreciated them because of it.

I would think that they were all lucky women. well maybe except the dead one. lol xxx less...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us having sex,SOME,not all,PANIC...and s...

For some reason this post made me feel less self-conscious about myself! Nice comment.  more...

Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram Pin back ur lug holes (that means 'EARS',for anyone who has to swim to get to the UK.ha ha). It makes me laugh,when i'm dating a BBW. Because when it comes to us having sex,SOME,not all,PANIC...and start to worry about how they look naked,and what i might think of their body,or if i would STILL want to have sex with them, after i've seen them naked. All the women i've had sex with have been either...Tall,Short,Fat,Slim,Drunk or Dead,(my case comes up next Tuesday.he he). So i,and MANY other BBW lovers, know EXACTLY what your body IS going to look like,LONG b4 we ever get to see you naked. Well, i do anyway! NOTHING is going to be a surprise to me/us! We've seen it all b4,and we expect 2c what we see/what YOU look like. Just enjoy your naked body...because i KNOW i/we do!!!! xxx

For some reason this post made me feel less self-conscious about myself! Nice comment. less...

You might be surprised if you knew how many men really like a good buddha on a woman. I sure was ... so embrace your belly, and be open to a man who wants to embrace it too!

How do BBW /BHM learn self love?
I know it sounds corny , but every time you walk past a mirror you stop, face the mirror and say{I am beautiful. I love me. I am worthy of love and praise.) by mataining a posative attitude you can help your self heal the negative effects others try to project on to you.The things that you can change like over eating(stress eating) exercise, or medatate. or drinking too much soda or sweet tea , switch to non cal subitutes and after a while wean y  more...

How do BBW /BHM learn self love?
I know it sounds corny , but every time you walk past a mirror you stop, face the mirror and say{I am beautiful. I love me. I am worthy of love and praise.) by mataining a posative attitude you can help your self heal the negative effects others try to project on to you.The things that you can change like over eating(stress eating) exercise, or medatate. or drinking too much soda or sweet tea , switch to non cal subitutes and after a while wean your self off the "low cal" and drink water with Lime or lemmon twist. those small changes can add up. less...

once went out with a guy who had previously only had "very slim" girlfriends...
my weight & size was never an issue & when I eventually broached the subject, he said it must all be about the attitude and the way I thought of myself, as I never complained myself of being the way I am, not going on about diets or constantly asking "does my bum look big in this?", he said that if I had been constantly bringing it to his attention, then of course he would have had to notice and   more...

once went out with a guy who had previously only had "very slim" girlfriends...
my weight & size was never an issue & when I eventually broached the subject, he said it must all be about the attitude and the way I thought of myself, as I never complained myself of being the way I am, not going on about diets or constantly asking "does my bum look big in this?", he said that if I had been constantly bringing it to his attention, then of course he would have had to notice and would have probably told me to go do something about it!
So girl, start thinking of inside.. not out lol less...

A persons worth is not measured by belly fat! It's not measured on how many people like them either.

Own the belly, sister. Play with it, pet it, love it.

I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself. Your measurements aren't that far away from my current stats. Actually I'm sure I was your size at one time or other. The only time I've doubted my "outer" beauty was when I let others get to me. If you were a beautiful person before the weight, you are still that person. The presence of your enlarged stomach doesn't change who you are or can be.

An "Ugly" person will always remain ugly... but a overweight person can lose the   more...

I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself. Your measurements aren't that far away from my current stats. Actually I'm sure I was your size at one time or other. The only time I've doubted my "outer" beauty was when I let others get to me. If you were a beautiful person before the weight, you are still that person. The presence of your enlarged stomach doesn't change who you are or can be.

An "Ugly" person will always remain ugly... but a overweight person can lose the fat. It's all about what is left? less...

Hello There and Congratulations on your twins !

As much as we hate to believe it, men and women do judge each other on how they look. If a man looks at you and doesn't think you look good enough for him he will never even give you the time of day to find out what a treasure you are on the inside. Well, that is a loss for him.

However, you know you have found a genuine man when he accepts you at what you consider your worst. If he is attracted to you and proud to be with you in public and h  more...

Hello There and Congratulations on your twins !

As much as we hate to believe it, men and women do judge each other on how they look. If a man looks at you and doesn't think you look good enough for him he will never even give you the time of day to find out what a treasure you are on the inside. Well, that is a loss for him.

However, you know you have found a genuine man when he accepts you at what you consider your worst. If he is attracted to you and proud to be with you in public and have you meet his family and friends when you are heavier than you want to be, or you hair is plain that day or no make up - then you know you've hit the jackpot. That's the man you need to find. You are in the right place to find Big and Beautiful Woman admirers. You should even consider attending the BBW Bash. It is going on in Vegas right now, but do check out the website bbwnetwork.com - you will see all the big, gorgeous women enjoying time together, making new friends, frolicking in the pool, dancing etc ! It is their time to be proud of who they are. They are intelligent, successful, loving, kind, talented and so much more. Also on that site you will see ads for plus size lingere to help you get that sexual confidence back !

In the end, regardless of your weight, CONFIDENCE conquers all. I am sure all the men will support me on this one, there is nothing sexier than a woman who is confident in herself. If you can find a way to focus on the plus side of being plus size it will help your esteem. If you do want to lose weight, get them babies into the stroller and go walking. Get a exercise friend and support one another !

I wish you best of luck and if you ever want to chat, I'm here and a whole lot of other people around the world that are here to keep you strong ! less...

I truly believe there is someone for everyone. I also believe that love, real love is one of the best forms of foreplay. When it is someone you connect with and love you see here as the real beauty she is. I hate to say it...
But it is really like the movie Shallow Hal...(laughing)